I have a lot of friends on Facebook who are women and I get a bit of a glimpse into just what sort of messages these ladies get on their various dating apps. See, you guys, when you message these women, or probably any woman, and you're a dick, they take screenshots and they post them for all the world to see. And what might frighten you, or should frighten you, is that they don't obscure your face or screen name. Your dickish comments are on display like fine art in a museum, where all of the ladies' friends will come around and critique your game. Spoiler alert: You have no game. Also, you are a terrible sore loser when you don't get the attention you're seeking.
Flaky people irritate us all. And I think all of us are guilty of doing it from time to time. I think it comes from a lack of interest or in fear or nervousness about a social situation. Even if the social situation is just a date or even a hookup.
If you're lucky, you can detect that someone might be a flake early on in your talks with them, so you can avoid wasting your time in trying to meet them, only to find yourself going home alone, annoyed and disappointed.
I see it all the time, mostly in screenshots of chat exchanges between some friend of mine and the guy who is trying to hit on her. At the point that we get to see the screenshots, they've had an exchanging of a few messages, typically starting with him telling her how gorgeous she is. She'll reply back with a thank you of some sort, and he'll continue with the compliments. One or two messages after that, he's asking her to sit on his face.
I frequently hear people ask if someone can be forgiven for their cheating. Can they be trusted again? I sadly, don't have a solid answer on that. But I have a few opinions on the matter.
Can you forgive them? That's up to you. I'm sure they're worthy of forgiveness. Hell, sometimes holding a grudge against someone harms you more than it harms the person for whom you are holding the grudge. I tend to be one that doesn't hold grudges. That's not to say that I completely forget about the transgression. If you've done me wrong, I may not still be pissed about it, but I'm not forgetting about it, entirely, either. It's a strike against you. So, if you're in a relationship with someone, and you've been together for a considerable amount of time and your partner cheats on you, you'll need to figure out whether that's a forgivable offense or not. Is it their first time doing this? Their 20th? Did they tell you tons of lies or bring home any diseases? Was it a "Wham-bam - Thank you ma'am!" thing, or an ongoing affair? There are too many variables.
I was on Grindr tonight, err, well, technically this morning, and looking to find some place to shove my cock. I managed to find someone who would be good enough. He wasn't fantastic looking, but he wasn't bad looking either, at least judging from his photo.
I had talked to him a while back, but things didn't pan out. This time, we managed to arrange for a meet-up at his place. He gave me the address and I headed there. I let him know when I was pulling up to his house and, when I did pull up, it looked like every light in the house was off. I always view that as a red flag.