What About Porn?

I love porn. Well, I used to. Now it doesn't do a whole lot for me. I feel like I've seen it all, both in video and live-and-in-person. Once in a while I'll partake, but it's rare. Perhaps it's just part of getting older and, though I have a healthy sex drive, I'm not in the mood day in and day out. 

There is some controversy over whether people can be addicted to porn. The only way I can say that porn would be a problem, in my opinion, would be to determine if it's actually causing a problem in your life. If you're choosing porn over your partner, or if you're becoming delusional to what is real, because your expectations of sex and sex partners is based on what you've seen in porn, then there may be an issue. If you're finding yourself being late for work or other appointments because you'd rather watch porn, or you are skipping out on other socialization, like spending time with family and friends, then maybe there's a problem. If you spend hours a day searching for porn, consider the fact that things might be getting out of hand. 

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I don't think porn is bad, per se. I think it can be healthy. It can even be helpful for spicing things up for couples who might want to watch it together, to maybe get some ideas for some new positions to try, or new techniques. 

Once in a while you'll hear a guy complaining that his partner, wife, or girlfriend won't let him watch porn; that they'll get pissed off and jealous when they do. I hate to tell you this, ladies (or men) who refuse to allow your partners to view porn, but they do it anyway. We know this because they tell us, their buddies, about it. They hide it deep in their computer, buried within folder after folder, with harmless sounding file names, so you won't stumble upon it. They'll use Incognito mode in their Chrome browser to view it online, so that the history won't be saved, and you won't be able to find a trace of it. You've accomplished nothing with your complaining and jealousy, other than to alienate your partner and make them hide things from you. 

You don't need to feel threatened by porn. Men have the ability to separate sex from love. Perhaps it's a gift, or maybe it's a curse. We lust after the models and stars in the porn that we're ogling, we take care of our business, and we spend our day with you. The only justifiable reason you have to get angry about this, is if we're doing this instead of fucking you. If we're doing that, we need to look into why that's the case. That could be both of our faults, and the porn may, or may not have anything to do with it. The porn may just be an outlet, in that case. I'm not a therapist, so I'm not gonna speculate on what sort of issues may be causing that divide. Maybe talk to a relationship counselor.

It is important to remember that what you see in porn isn't always the most realistic. Especially if it's from a larger studio. They use multiple cameras and shoot over a couple of days in order to make it look like a guy can fuck for days, and make his cum shot look like he took a can of white paint and dumped it on his partner. In reality, he probably lost his erection several times during the shoot, had to start over, had some awkward position changes, and some directions from the director barked at him. He may have cum at the wrong time and dribbled, which they edited out of the shot, so on the following day they shot a new, close-up cum shot, with him stroking onto her tits, and used two cameras so, as you watch him blow his load, you see the entire thing from one angle, then they show it from the other angle and your brain tells you that his cum shot was twice as long as it actually was. They also use slow-motion, to make it seem even longer. Edited all together, it looks like the perfect fuckfest. This stuff doesn't happen in real life. 

Then there's the perfect bodies in porn. Most of us don't look like that. We don't have ten-inch cocks, 6-pack abs, or a Barbie Doll figure. By the way, that huge cock may not be as huge as you think. Camera angles, guys with smaller body frames, and small hands can make a guy's cock look huge! Plastic surgery also helps with some stars.

Personally, I recommend amateur porn. They're shorter clips, with less terrible acting, and they get right to the filthy sex. The people look realistic and, they're generally genuinely attracted to their partner. They're also not making all of the fake moans and "Oh, God!" and "Yes!" sounds that aren't nearly as common in real life as they are in porn. 

When I watch professional, big studio porn, I watch it like it's a sitcom, and sometimes with a friend... and we laugh, and laugh, and laugh. Generally speaking, though, use porn with moderation and you should be fine. Okay?