What The Fuck Were You Expecting?

What The Fuck Were You Expecting?

Yeah, yeah, I haven't posted to here in probably about a year. I could check the date, but it's not important enough to bother with those extra taps on the touchpad.

I'm posting because I need to bitch. And moan... Well, maybe not moan. I guess just the bitching. 

Anyway, I went on a Grindr hookup a couple of nights ago (gasp!) and it didn't exactly go perfectly. The chat went fine and arranging the meetup was almost too easy, which is usually a red flag. But he and I were talking and quickly arranged for me to go to his house. It was about 15 to 20 minutes from where I was, so I started heading his way and kept him updated on my progress. I do that to make sure they don't disappear on me. If they stop responding, I stop driving to their house. He, luckily (I guess), responded right away nearly every time, so I figured he was legitimate. [...]

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Bathhouse Basics

Sorry, everyone. I haven't posted in a while. I've been both busy and somewhat uninspired, lacking any interest in writing. The reason I've been so busy and distracted is that I found a job. A quite appropriate job for a person like myself...

I'm the night manager at a bathhouse. I won't say the name of the place because, well, it doesn't matter, and I don't really want to make it easier for people to hunt me down, should I ever happen to piss them off enough. Anyways, yeah, a bathhouse. A gay bathhouse, that is. I don't know if there are any other kinds, but I figured I should be clear, just in case. [...]

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Inciting Incident

Today's episode of the podcast, Inciting Incident, found on BlogTalkRadio.com, featured me as one of their guests. They interviewed me for about a half hour about this blog, its origins, background info on me, etc. Please give it a listen, subscribe to their podcast, which can be found on iTunes and other podcast players, and consider contributing to their Patreon

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In the 12th episode of Inciting Incident, Al, Brian, and Heather discuss something else we’re not supposed to talk about around the dinner table. Joining us for interviews will be blogger David Dodge and YouTube host Preston Baez.

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Al Laiman is a double major/minor at the University of Pennsylvania. He has written and contributed to The Fourth Estate, lordsofpain.net, the Philadelphia Film Society, and the Penn Moviegoer. He won Audience Choice for Best Film at the Third Annual Hershey Student Film Festival, and pens the wrestling review “In Laiman’s Terms.” He also hosts the show “Jaded Hope” available on YouTube.

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— Inciting Incident #12 - Forbidden From the Dinner Table #2

How You Treat Your Ex, and What it Tells Me

Imagine this scenario: You're out on a date with some new man or women and things seem to be going well, but every once in a while, they bring up their ex-boyfriend/girlfriend, or their ex-husband/wife and all they do is complain about how awful this person was. They seemingly can find no redeeming qualities in their former partner and view them as nothing more than a huge mistake. 

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Was it good for you?

Are you good in bed? Do you boast of your sexual prowess and about how you make all the ladies have multiple orgasms? Do you beat yourself up after a sexual experience because you feel like your partner was dissatisfied with how things went? Are you any good at fucking? Well, are you? How do you even know? Some people will tell you, "Oh, yeah, that was fantastic!" as you're walking out the door, but they can't slam the door hard enough after you pass the threshold. 

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To Spit, or to Swallow, that is the Question

To Spit, or to Swallow, that is the Question

Do you prefer to spit or swallow? Why? Some people spit after fellating a guy because they dislike the taste or texture of the ejaculate. I've always found that to be a bit odd. I mean, I can understand the instinctive guttural reaction of wanting to spew an unwanted substance from your mouth, but when I look at it from a practical standpoint, it seems pointless to spit.

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All Fuse and No Bang - Delayed Ejaculation

You often hear about premature ejaculation and impotence, but it seems like you rarely hear about an inability to cum at all. Well, not at all, as if it never happens, but just being unable to do so at times. Sadly, this is one of my problems. 

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Sex: Quality Over Quantity

When my husband and I first got married, we had sex all the time. It wasn't always great, but it was always happening. We were teenagers, we were nuts about each other, and neither of us was particularly experienced, so it was still a big deal to us. I think our record was eight times in a day. We could go for hours, take a nap, eat a snack, and go again.

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A Brief Intro From Our Newest Contributor

Hey, guys, I'm Jodi. I'm a boring suburban housewife by day, and a pan-curious polyamorous weirdo by night. I'm (attempting to be) a writer by trade, so I can be a little wordy, but bear with me! I think I've got unique experiences to share that you all will enjoy.

What To Do When Your Partner Reveals An Interest In Kink

I’ve heard the story told time and time again: a person has fantasies about kink and desires involving kink, but a partner who doesn’t know.  When this person reveals these desires and fantasies to the significant other, the label, “freak”, gets thrown around.  There’s something wrong with the kinky person.  “You must have been abused as a child.”  “I was raised not to hit people.”  “What kind of sick person tortures people/wants to be tortured?”  This negativity is the wrong way to respond to your sexual partner’s honesty.

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Poppers & "ParTiers"

There seems to be a prevalence of drug use within in the gay community. Two drugs which I frequently see mentioned are meth and an inhalant referred to as "poppers." Both of these drugs are often taken before and/or during sex by many gay men. More gay men than seems logical. 

I'm not a big fan of drug use. I do think people have every right to take whatever drugs they want to use, assuming they are making an informed decision to do so. Meth can wreak havoc on the body and poppers have their own set of issues, though, so I don't advocate for their usage. 

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The Sadist and the Masochist

The masochist says to the sadist: "Please hurt me."

The sadist says, "No."

I have seen this ridiculous short exchange in so many contexts, most recently today, that I feel compelled to clear up the misconceptions about sadists and masochists.

What people believe about us simplifies who we are and what motivates us to seek out what we do in sex.  It's a caricature of sadomasochism.  The reality has subtleties and complexities most people wouldn't imagine. 

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10 Myths About Bisexuals Dispelled

10 Myths About Bisexuals Dispelled

Bisexual people... They're so confusing, right? No, not really. Not once you pull your head out of your ass and drop all of your preconceived notions and pay attention to what they say about themselves and what science has to say about them. Bisexual people, like you and me, have attractions for other people, but while I may be attracted only to other men, and you might be attracted only to women, a bisexual person has the capacity to be attracted to both sexes. 

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Bye, Felipe!

Bye, Felipe!

I have a lot of friends on Facebook who are women and I get a bit of a glimpse into just what sort of messages these ladies get on their various dating apps. See, you guys, when you message these women, or probably any woman, and you're a dick, they take screenshots and they post them for all the world to see. And what might frighten you, or should frighten you, is that they don't obscure your face or screen name. Your dickish comments are on display like fine art in a museum, where all of the ladies' friends will come around and critique your game. Spoiler alert: You have no game. Also, you are a terrible sore loser when you don't get the attention you're seeking. 

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The Differences Between BDSM and Abuse

I have been accused of abuse on multiple occasions with my current relationship by people who are outside of it.  The accusation is baseless and ridiculous on to its core.  There are many differences between a healthy BDSM relationship (any healthy relationship, really) and an abusive relationship.  The differences are not difficult to spot, but I will spell them out for people who don't understand BDSM and need to know how things work.

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Baker, Our Newest Contributor

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Introduction time! Gather 'round boys and girls of the internet,  and lend me your eyes! My name is Baker, and I will be the one telling you all stories, and when appropriate, advice.  I'm a straight 20-year-old male living in a smaller town by the name of West Plains, MO.  I work hard at a local saw mill, doing whatever is needed.  Sexually speaking, I'm seven years experienced.  I am sharing my stories with you in the hopes of sharing some advice or giving you a giggle. I know the two contributors so far, both are great guys, although I am thinking a bit less experienced voice may help the website here. I probably won't post super often on here due to the fact that I am usually left tired from work, or just from a lack of stories to tell. I fear my inexperience in life may not be the best to learn from. However, I look forward to sharing my experiences and inexperience, hoping to bring light of some sort to your days. 

Dominance is Not Misogyny (or Misandry)

We are all taught (or should be taught) that violence against other people is a bad thing. Empathy should tell us, if our parents don’t.  We don’t want violence to happen to us, so we shouldn’t do it to other people because we know how we’d feel.  Right?

Except the human experience is complex, and for whatever reason, some people are sexually aroused by the idea of disciplining, humiliating, degrading, or gaining submission from others, just as others find fulfillment and sexual arousal from being on the receiving end. 

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Please Be Able to Hold a Conversation

Please Be Able to Hold a Conversation

I see it written on people's online profiles all the fucking time! They insist that people be able to carry on a conversation, yet they, themselves, have the conversational skills of a scarecrow. And I don't mean the one on the way to Oz. 

I have a few problems with this. [...] it's somewhat condescending, for one thing; it implies that he is a master conversationalist and that you peons are mostly incapable of talking to him. But the few plebes who may be able to string a sentence together might be permitted to speak with him. The thing is, though, that he sucks at communicating. 

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Friends with Benefits and Catching The Feels

I've had my share of friends with benefits, or FWBs, over the years. It's nice to have someone who you're sexually compatible with and actually like, for the occasional play time. It sure beats having to look for hookups, if you're the sort who does that sort of thing. I am that sort, but I'm also lazy, and sometimes I just want a bit of a deeper connection with my sex partner than what can be found with an attractive stranger. 

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